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The Temperance Toolbox

Communication Script Library

Ready-to-adapt wording for boundaries, hard conversations, conflict, requests, and apologies. Every scripts across 12 categories, each with shorter, firmer, and softer versions. Saved scripts stay in this browser.

"A soft answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger."

Proverbs 15:1

Wording changes how a conversation goes. Having the soft answer ready beforehand means you are not composing one while your temper is up.

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"The heart of the righteous studies how to answer, But the mouth of the wicked pours forth evil."

Proverbs 15:28

Studying how to answer is ordinary preparation. Draft the wording here, read it back, and change what does not sound like you.

Use a short phrase, not a full sentence. "The missed deadline" reads better here than "you missed the deadline."

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Plain-language patterns you can borrow for any script above.

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Where this fits

Having the words ready is the Practice the Skills step of the TEMP Method. Work through all four steps in the TEMP Method Journal, decide what to say with the Conflict Resolution Flowchart, or settle down first with Grounding Techniques.